How to be a happy stay-at-home mom?

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Can a stay-at-home mom always be happy? Is it possible to strike out all the comments of self-worth she often faces? Stay-at-home moms are often considered to be enjoying a lazy, comfortable life compared to the working moms. But they have taken crucial decisions for their families, overlooking career, friendships, and other personal interests. Even though, most of the stay-at-home mothers experience this sort of remorse feeling of loss of identity; hardly few come out of it.

What could be the significant challenges for a stay-at-home mom?

Staying at home is a job 24/7, to be available for the need of the children, or other family emergencies. In most of the cases, there is not enough appreciation or recognition for the efforts taken. This can also result in self-doubt, depression and low self-esteem. Nowadays, stay-at-home moms face challenges of staying active at home, to increase self-worth as well as to remain productive. Being staying at home is a decision, which can be fruitful or else destructive. When someone decides to be a stay-at-home mother, it is like enrolling to a 24/7 call on duty. There may not be any relaxation or thought of rest as the tag says ‘stay-at-home mom’. So, if someone decides to be a stay-at-home mother, it should be out of passion rather than compulsion. If it is through coercion, it will only result in frustration.

What are the advantages of being staying at home with the kid?

There is no meaning in staying at home if one is not aware of the reward it offers. The American Academy of Paediatrics suggests that it is better mother stays with their kids from infancy to early pre-school age.

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The connection and bonding established during this period, later on, influence the relationship between the middle school and higher years. Another significant study on a program introduced by the Norwegian government, in the year 1998 sheds light on this. The study found that there are long-run educational outcomes of those children who were able to stay with their parent at home rather than being in some child care facilities. It was found that there is no adequate substitute for parental care concerning educational achievement.

What are the key focus areas in the stay-at-home parenting?

If there are advantages to stay at home parenting, there are disadvantages too.

Research studies suggest that children of stay-at-home mothers tend to show low social capability skills compared to the working moms.

The children of working mom might need to be at child care centers, and they have more resources to learn. To overcome this issue, introduce more interactive activities and other social activities on a regular basis. And some activities are found to have a more profound influence on social as well as everyday skills. This includes reading stories, singing songs, shopping together, having family visits, and art and craft work.

Another study found that the daughters of working mothers seem to have higher education as well as the career achievement.

Children of stay-at-home mothers observe their mother as someone who does the household chores, folds the laundry, washes the dishes, nothing else. This might affect their interest in education, as well as the career if they are not finding your life interesting. Staying productive and industrious is the way to be a motivator for your child.

The study also pointed to the attitude of sons and daughters of the working home mothers. In families of working moms, fathers tend to involve more in household activities as well as childcare, which is rare in families of stay-at-home moms. This has a positive impact on the views of male children. There may be families of stay-at-home moms where the responsibilities are shared, but if otherwise, it is good to practice.

How can you stay happy as a stay-at-home mom?

The definition of happiness according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary is “the state of well being and contentment”.

Dr. Martin Saligman links happiness to the influence of positive elements in one’s life.

So the question is, ‘what gives you the most satisfying experience?’

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How to build positivity being at home?

Embrace and accept the 24/7 on-call duty

Be Confident and erase all the negativities

Organise and plan schedules

A good support group

Set time for self-care

Take the dual role of a strict and loving mom

Be industrious at home

Embrace and accept the 24/7 on-call duty

There is no easy work, and there is a price that needs to be paid. So, if staying at home is the choice you make, think twice and then decide. Once decided, get to ready to work for the long-term goal. Set daily tasks and purposes, be your boss and appreciate your efforts. Note down the tasks and the achievements you made in a scrapbook. On a weekly basis, if you analyze your accomplishments, it can motivate and fill you with positive energy.

Be Confident and erase all negativities

It is vital to stay active and experience wellness in life. A happy environment can create positive vibes as well as influence people around. Avoid negativities, and include more positive elements that can build your confidence. It can be having some meaningful relationships, high-quality connections or engaging in activities that can build up your confidence.

Organise and plan schedules

Maintaining a routine and organizing works helps in reducing stress than being in chaos. Having a timeline for household works, laundry, meal time, nap time, play time as well as personal time can make life pretty easier.

A good support group

Most of the stay-at-home mom lives and roles are confined to their family. Studies show that this can affect their mental health as well as family life. This can be alleviated by having backups from husbands, as well as the encouragement from support groups with similar interests.

Set time for self-care

Spare some time for your interests too in the busy motherhood schedule. It can be reading a book you enjoy, walking alone, a dance class, shopping alone, a day with friends- anything that can refresh your mind and can calm your overwhelming life.

Take the dual role of a strict and loving mom

A strict and loving mom teaches children the lessons of obedience from an early age. This helps to reduce unnecessary stress and conflicts. Giving appropriate tasks and roles in household activities is also helpful to utilize their energies more creatively.

Be industrious at home

If you are a stay-at-home mom, it doesn’t mean that its all over. If you have a will to learn and be more creative with the available resources and with the limited time, there are plenty of opportunities waiting for you. Take time to identify your strengths, knowledge level and expertise. Turn from a stay-at-home mother to an active work from home mother and be happy.

Do you have any other ideas to stay happy at home? I’d love to hear it!!


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  • I love how the Lord has placed such a variety of skills and desires within us. I stayed home with our kids for 15-ish years. It was a wonderful time, one I’d never trade. Intentional self-care is a must, however, because it’s easy to get lost among the day and family needs. True! Thanks so much for popping by my blog. Blessings!

  • Being a stay-at-home mother has many blessings and also hard things…just like anything else! You make many good suggestions here, but I think this is the key: “Once decided, get ready to work for the long-term goal” Thinking big picture is so important when discouragement rises up. Also, this post makes me think of C.S. Lewis’ quote: “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” Good article!

  • A stay at home mum is a blessed woman. The long-term harvest is huge. It’s just a matter of utilizing all the available time productively. Prayer is key. Thank you for this post.

  • Thank you for writing this! I’m not a stay-at-home mom, I’m kind of a hybrid as I work away from home a few days a week and then I work at home a few days a week. BUT, your message still resonated with me. One point in particular I’d like to mention–the stay-at-home-mom’s attitude and how it is perceived by the children. You mention how the mother’s attitude is read by the children and that if she has a negative woe-is-me attitude it can affect the children’s view of what it means to be a stay-at-home mom. This is so important! I know that I’ve had to work on how I viewed the SAHM as my view of it was a bit tarnished from how I was brought up. What we do as moms sends messages to our kids–even how we “mom”!

    • We are all moms and we influence our children a lot… And it is a life-long commitment to be a manual for them to watch and learn… Thank you, Laura. 🙂